ShinNa: Spiritual Blog

 I titled this "A Secret to Great Social Interactions" because I feel like this is what most people don't look at when it comes to having great social interactions. It actually comes down to knowing what to say or what to do or not do in a given situation, which sounds really simple. As you're listening to this, you're probably thinking, "Oh, well, yeah, totally." We often think the reason we don't do this, or we don't know how to, is because we feel anxious or believe we're dumb or not intelligent enough. We hold various beliefs, but that's really not the case. This became clear to me when I was learning something called pushing hands. It's basically a sensitivity exercise where you have someone pushing on you, and initially, you can even do it with your eyes closed. It's really interesting because it reveals where we hold stiffness in our body. As you learn to relax and allow yourself to move with the push, flowing with your bo...

  So, what's the alternative to “one more thing”? I'd like to say the alternative is simply “one thing.” When you're fully present, your mind naturally focuses on one thing at a time. In our system, we call this: "there’s nothing to do, only to see." That means you remain present until you discern what your need is, what it is you want in that moment. Then comes the second principle: take the next step—no more, no less—and the next step will be revealed to you. We repeat this often: when you’re stuck, remember there’s nothing to do, only to see. It’s about slowing down so you can be present with your body and your true self. By taking a moment to see what you really need, you can then decide what to do about it—just one step at a time. When you do that, the next step reveals itself naturally. This is powerful because it shows you that you don’t need, and sometimes don’t even want, to do one more thing. Often, as you’re about to add another task, you feel your body...

Oftentimes we believe that doing one more thing is inherently good—a productive move—without considering its consequences or where that urge comes from. We often overlook that this drive actually stems from a scarcity mentality, a deep-seated feeling that we’re not enough and that we need to do better. We assume that if we accomplish enough tasks, we’ll eventually reach a place—almost like a salvation—where we’ll be okay because we would have done enough to be accepted as who we are. It’s interesting to note that while you’re busy doing one more thing, you’re not really practicing who you are; you’re practicing who you’re not. In life, you get what you practice. For example, if you work hard to make money, you will make money. Many people make money in hopes of being happy, but making money and being happy are separate matters. Although money can provide options that might help you pursue happiness, fundamentally, money itself doesn’t make you happier. The idea is simple: if you practi...